Tops usually pick up on this and start by lubing up a couple of fingers and working your hole a little bit. Take his hand or a couple of his fingers and gently lead them up and down your crack to your anus. If you’re not relaxed, it will be rough when he enters you. When you’re both lubed up and ready to go, ask him to relax you.
I disagree and the following is a list of things to try as a bottom.ġ) GETTING HIS PENIS IN YOU – The first thing you need to know as a bottom, is that it does not have to hurt going in and your partner should not have to wince while trying to get it in. All too often, bottoms just lie there and take it, but they don’t really participate because they don’t think that there is anything they can do. He writes:Īlthough I don’t like the labels of ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ and I believe that every gay man should experience being both, I myself prefer to bottom. Andy in New York has sent us in this piece about what the bottom can do to help make sex better.
